My Daughter Was In Grief.

"Ya see, in life I know there's lots of grief" Bob Marley.

As I always picked up my little girl on Wednesday's evening from the babysitter and she'll stays with me till Friday's evening. We talks about school, work and things in general. I always encourage my kids to have an open chat with me and I likes when we talks about things, I now thinks that she always looks up to that moments with me when I let her talks and I listen to her with all my being. I realized she like that more since she can't get that attentions from anyone else but from her father.

This evening was a bit different, I can feels some stress on her and as I always asked her: Sally, how's school today? How many homework's do you have to turn in morrow morning? Do you needs help with them? What are we eating for dinner?

But this Wednesday evening, she says, dad, my best friend at school lost her mom and the funeral is on Thursday and it will take place in Pennsylvania, I wish I can go, but I can't. If the funeral was taking place here, I'll attend it if you can take me there. I took a deep breath and says, what happened with her? And do you know her?

Yes dad, I know her and I've been to there house before, she's one of the nice person I've seen. I get more concerns now. So what happened with her? She died from her sleep, She went to bed and never wakes up. How old was her? She's just 34 years. Oh yes, I repeats, 34 years old?

Her name Diron, she's survives by two girls, 15 and 13 years old, the 13 years old is in the same grade as my daughter Sally, they're best friends at school and on the phone.

So, I told my girl, If this was here, I'll go with you to the funeral service so you'll pay respects and sympathize with your friend and her family's.

The next day, which was Friday, after Jummah prayers, I picked up my girl from school, as we're driving to the public library, she received a text message from one of the friends who attended the funeral, I heard my little girls says: Oh, she don't looks the same, I asked who? She say's the lady who passed. Despite I was driving and I don't need no distraction on the road, I asked to take a look at the photo. There she was in her coffin, resting in peace, despite I don't know her, she looks calm, relax and beautiful. And then Sally showed me her photo when she was alive. Oh God, a beautiful and warm smile, she looks so friendly and her classes sparkles. I can't help it, but choked up a bit. I took a deep breath and say May God rest her Soul in peace.

Life lessons: No one knows tomorrow. No one can be guarantee anything. No one wants to dies, no one wants to abandon there child in this World all by themselves and pass away without knowing who will be there for them. I am an emotional person, I know how deep it hits me by looking at the lady photos: Dead or Alive. But now she's gone.

Now her two girls going to lives in California with family members, who knows what can happens in there future? Yes the good LORD will surely takes care of them and see them through life ups and downs.

I ask God to help them and help us all. I ask God to make life simple and make us succeeds in whatever good we plans or going after. I ask God to pardon Diron and grant her Heaven. May her Soul rest in perfect peace...

PRAY FOR UNCLE OSMAN GEORGE

Everyone will taste death, then to US you will be ultimately returned.(29:57)

If life is the way we all want it, Uncle Osman will be here by now. But ALLAH knows best and no one can question HIS decisions.

In our large family (HURATU LOUISA COLE AND ABU S. COLE), we are very special in many ways and we stand firm for each other on many levels.

But one man who will always stand for all of us in all levels is Uncle Osman.

Uncle Osman was a gifted man; he mastered his trade and went far and above expectations. In the 80's and 90's, he was the king of electronics repairing and he introduced satellites receiver systems in Freetown, Sierra Leone.The man who will fixed any mechanical items if he wants to.

For everyone who ever came acrossed him or work for him or with him, knows that he is the man of the time. Uncle Osman was blessed.

In life, you will meet people who will helps you but mock at you, In life you will have family members or friends or people who will never wish you well in life, not Uncle Osman, he always wishes everyone well and he will help you without saying anything to anyone.

Growing up, I encountered life in various ways; May ALLAH blessed my grand parents (ALHAJI BILLOH & HAJJA HASSANATU WARITAY)and my family as a whole. I did go through life with few shakes, despite all, I will never forget the great help that Uncle Osman gave me and many of his nephews and cousins and the family in general.

He helped me at the hardest time in my life. He never let me down; He helped me pave my own way.

In our family, we will never get anyone to replace him and no one can fill his shoes. We all get selfish in life sometimes, that's not Uncle Osman, he thinks about all of us.

Words sometimes can't express one feelings about each other or your loved ones, but Uncle Osman went the distance for all of us and he never asked anyone of us to pay him for anything.

Our family can not stop the pain we feels now and the pain after, but I wish we can have someone who can look at life and think twice and try to help there family and others and make life easy for all. But that's a dream world I am talking about.Uncle Osman don't care who you're or what you have or you can do, if he have to do things for you, he will do it and don't look back for a reward or medals.

Only ALLAH knows best, but I learned a bit from Uncle Osman during his short illness and his sudden death, some people might call it Life lessons, I call it Life Realities:

*I've learned to do the best one can and don't wait for approval from the masses, no one cares.

*Have no fear for the unknown, Trust everyone, Don't make life worst for anyone, everyone and all.

*Never stop learning and always try to know more and educates anyone that needs your ideas or infos.

*Travel the World if you can. Take some short trips around town, around the states, around the country, go somewhere, just do something.

*Volunteering. Do things for others without asking for anything or expecting anything in returns. Help the elders, help in community services, give the things that you need so that others can use it.

*Never stop helping anyone if you can, do it and let ALLAH give you the rewards.

*Don't look low or down on anyone, no matter what that someone is going through right now in life, think highly of others and know that ALLAH can make the begger a millionaire and the millionaire a begger. It's the truth.

*Take great care of your healths and don't put your health second place.

*Tell your love ones how much you love them and how much they are important to you.

*Make peace with anyone who have problems with you and try your best to forgive yourself and anyone that might do you wrong.

*Exercise and eat right, watch your weight, do your regular check ups.

*Prayers are a most, no compromised. There is GOD and no other way out without GOD. No matter how hard things are, always have that faith in GOD alone.

*Do not go to bed with hates in your heart, whatever happened today might not mean anything in about five years from now.

*Don't sweat the small stuffs, and all small stuffs.

*Don't be ashamed to beg or ask for pardon if you wrong anyone, small or big ones, ask for pardon, it will not make you look small or bad. It make you a real human.

*Kill the pride. We are not perfect and we do mistakes.

*Call your family or love ones and just say hi, even for a minute or two.

*Smile more and get upset less.

*Say hello to strangers, to co-workers, friends and anyone who comes your way.

*Don't bad mouth anyone.

*Hold your kids; tell them how much you love them.

*Tell your family how special they are to you.

*Make everyday special for you and others.

*Get a hobby, plant a garden, take pictures or try to learn somethings for fun. Join a gym, swimming team or something.

Uncle Osman did a lot of good things and he never turns his back on anyone who asked for help.
He was the huge Cotton Tree in the center of our family. He never insults anyone and he never ignores his responsibilities to his families, friends and the world.

Uncle Osman, have strong faith in GOD, he was a true muslim's and a respectful guy.

We all get hurts in life games sometimes, but we all have to learn from life and death, there is no promise for morrow.

Uncle Osman was the ROCK, the builder, the iron man, the fighter for a good course, the mover, the shaker of good fortunes, the brain, the kind man, the thinker, volunteer, the real deal.

Uncle Osman was a hard working man; he will be the first at his water factory and the last guy to get off. He never knew what a day off is.

It is not easy with every day life, the world will look at you as a loser sometimes, the World will look or put you down,the World will say you're a loser because certain things in life have or didn't goes right, people will make you feels unworthy of life and humiliates you, Uncle Osman never say any of that to anyone or think of any one that way. He always stay positive and think good about each and everyone.

He was a good man, a good family man, a good friend to thousands.

He feeds the poor and make sure his family are fine.

"On no soul doth ALLAH place a burden greater than it can bear. It gets every good that it earns and it suffers every ill that it earns.(Pray): "Our ALLAH! condemn us not if we forget or fall into error; ALLAH! Lay not on us a burden like that which Thou didst lay on those before us; Our Lord! lay not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Blot out our sins and grant us forgiveness. Have mercy on us. Thou art our Protector; help us against those who stand against faith." (2:286).

May ALLAH grant him Heaven and protects our family. We will miss you Uncle Osman.