As
I was thinking of what to write down this night, I came across this
article and I am adding my own taught into it. But it's true that
sometimes we all just have to take a back seat sometimes, just breath,
calm down, look, listen and appreciates all.
You probably already know the things that make up a good, healthy, happiness-filled life. (And you’re pretty sure it’s not Cheetos, checking email in bed, or gossiping.)
But we all need occasional (or even daily) reminders. And the good news is: you don’t have to do these things five times a day, every day to see a big shift in your life. Even just a few times a week or five minutes a day can make a big difference. Promise!
With that in mind, here are 12 things that all of us—myself very much included—should be doing more often.
1. Disconnect from technology.
Let’s turn our phones off, especially at dinner. Institute a "no phones on the table" rule. We don’t need to spend all our time documenting our lives for social media. Contrary to the popular saying, yes it did happen, even if it’s not on Instagram. This is hard for me. But in reality it's good for couple of hours.
2. Spend time in each other's company.
Physically being with people is the only way to get that sense of human connectedness. Yes, it’s lovely to video chat with your grandma every weekend, but that’s not the same as standing in her kitchen, working through her famous recipe for cinnamon rolls. Commit to making more time for in-person interaction with the people you love.Spending time with my daughter always makes me feels bless and calm, above all the time with me mother was the best. I remember when I arrived at Connaught Hospital, she was not expecting me, because I try hard for her not to know that I am coming to take care of her, my mom eyes was wide open and she smiles and this is what she says to me and everyone around her sick bed: This is my son. I know you will definitely come to see me and take care of me, despite I didn't tell her, but something in her says that I am coming to be with her. Wow. It hits me hard. But she's my Mother, and she's my blessings. So please give your time generously to your parents and love one.
3. Put your well-being first.
Many of us have a tendency to let our egos and bank accounts make decisions for us. If we don’t go to that party, they won’t invite us next time. If we say no to that client, they won’t put us on retainer. If we don’t order a cocktail and appetizer, they’ll think we’re boring or broke.
Our emotional and physical well-being often falls to the wayside. Take those personal days, drink water and eat a salad, turn down things that feel wrong.Baby, I am not a Party freak, so less stress here. I careless what other's will think of me for my Anti-Social life, but it takes away lot of stress from me. Yes we all have to give body to each other, since no one knows tomorrow, but just parting is not my cut. I try, but always fall short of that social scene.
4. Call family members just to say hi.
Your mom would love to hear your voice and your sister would love to hear all about your trip to Mexico. So call them! Don’t save phone calls for those "figuring out travel plans" or "what should we get Dad for his birthday" situations. I will confess. I am bad when it comes to calling people. I am the guy who text even my lovely daughter just to know that she's in school or what's she wants for dinner. But slowly I've been doing calls. I normally don't call my Aunt's much, now I do once a week, despite talking to Fati daily, everyone else I just text to say Hello. But yest it's good to call and just hear each other voice. I used to call my Mother daily, that's exception above all. May Her Soul rest in perfect peace. Missing you Hajja Saliamatu
5. Read real, actual books.
I love the feel of books and the smell of the pages. I love to write in the margins, fold the pages, and crack the spine when I open them for the first time. Books are a treasure box of words in your pocket. Spend more time with them. I normally read the QURAN more during Ramadan, but recently I've been reading it at work more than at home. Since the electronic World has make things much more easier.
6. Think before responding.
Since we’re constantly returning texts and replying to emails within five minutes, we’ve gotten into the habit of responding to situations immediately. And that’s fine when your friend is just emailing to say she’ll be 10 minutes late. But when you receive important news, good or bad, sit with it for a while. Give yourself time to work through it and feel your feelings. You’ll probably be much happier with your response if you give yourself some time. There's a jerk who normally e-mails me via Facebook and try to be so rude, now this is man, he's story is this: He's after a girl in my home Country Sierra Leone, but the girl told her that she prefer me more than any man, no listen to this. I don't have no relationship with this girl or this man, But the miracle of Facebook again, someone is crazy about me that I don't know, so this man is upsets with me for that and starts sending e-mails, in the beginning I was getting upsets, but then I realized, some people just needs to vents, so let me be. I try not to reply him back immediately, maybe a day or two. Slowly, he starts to change his manner to me
7. Get more laughing done in a day.
The average 4-year-old laughs 300 times a day, the average 40-year-old laughs four. How can you up your laugh quota? Surround yourself with funny people, learn how to tell a joke, subscribe to some hilarious podcast, or just search YouTube for funny videos.
I've always like looking at any HAPPY PERSON'S. It's relief stress. I know we're not perfect, but some people are just too unhappy to be around, they'll drain your positive energy so fast. I feel bless whenever I'll talks to Fati, she have that positive energy and smiles that will just hits you and make you feel welcome and special 8. Write by hand.
Write letters to your family or friends, write notes to lovers, lists for the store, goals for the week, or thank you notes. Digital communication is fantastic and convenient but there’s a huge difference between texting someone to say that you love them and writing it on a note and leaving it taped to the front door or bathroom mirror.
9. Go to sleep one hour earlier.
When we’re well rested we’re more productive, happier, and we make better decisions. Those emails will still be there in the morning, as will Netflix. Close the screen and go to sleep.
With my age now in the 40's, I am expereiencing some form of sleeping problems. I might try to go to sleep bit early most time, since I've to wake up at 4:30 am. But most time I just can't sleep. Don't ask me why, But I am trying hard. 10. Make time to do nothing.
Yes, even if you have to actually schedule it into your calendar. Doing nothing could be going for a walk, cuddling your pet, taking a long bath, or just laying on the sofa and staring into the middle distance. Down time is required if you really want to recharge your batteries.
11. Get dressed up.
I know that leggings-as-pants are incredibly comfortable. But sometimes we need to take the time to shine our shoes, put on some red lipstick, and get out of our yoga clothes. Even if it’s for no good reason! Make your own reason—drinks with the girls, a gallery opening, dinner at that cool new restaurant.
12. Wander. Without your GPS, without a destination or purpose.
Take a walk around a new neighborhood, pull over when you see a cute shop you’ve never noticed before, let your dog lead the way on his daily walk. You never know what you’ll find or who you’ll meet.
Now, I bet that you already know that these simple steps will make your life more amazing. Consider this a loving push to really, actually do them a little more often.
You probably already know the things that make up a good, healthy, happiness-filled life. (And you’re pretty sure it’s not Cheetos, checking email in bed, or gossiping.)
But we all need occasional (or even daily) reminders. And the good news is: you don’t have to do these things five times a day, every day to see a big shift in your life. Even just a few times a week or five minutes a day can make a big difference. Promise!
With that in mind, here are 12 things that all of us—myself very much included—should be doing more often.
1. Disconnect from technology.
Let’s turn our phones off, especially at dinner. Institute a "no phones on the table" rule. We don’t need to spend all our time documenting our lives for social media. Contrary to the popular saying, yes it did happen, even if it’s not on Instagram. This is hard for me. But in reality it's good for couple of hours.
2. Spend time in each other's company.
Physically being with people is the only way to get that sense of human connectedness. Yes, it’s lovely to video chat with your grandma every weekend, but that’s not the same as standing in her kitchen, working through her famous recipe for cinnamon rolls. Commit to making more time for in-person interaction with the people you love.Spending time with my daughter always makes me feels bless and calm, above all the time with me mother was the best. I remember when I arrived at Connaught Hospital, she was not expecting me, because I try hard for her not to know that I am coming to take care of her, my mom eyes was wide open and she smiles and this is what she says to me and everyone around her sick bed: This is my son. I know you will definitely come to see me and take care of me, despite I didn't tell her, but something in her says that I am coming to be with her. Wow. It hits me hard. But she's my Mother, and she's my blessings. So please give your time generously to your parents and love one.
3. Put your well-being first.
Many of us have a tendency to let our egos and bank accounts make decisions for us. If we don’t go to that party, they won’t invite us next time. If we say no to that client, they won’t put us on retainer. If we don’t order a cocktail and appetizer, they’ll think we’re boring or broke.
Our emotional and physical well-being often falls to the wayside. Take those personal days, drink water and eat a salad, turn down things that feel wrong.Baby, I am not a Party freak, so less stress here. I careless what other's will think of me for my Anti-Social life, but it takes away lot of stress from me. Yes we all have to give body to each other, since no one knows tomorrow, but just parting is not my cut. I try, but always fall short of that social scene.
4. Call family members just to say hi.
Your mom would love to hear your voice and your sister would love to hear all about your trip to Mexico. So call them! Don’t save phone calls for those "figuring out travel plans" or "what should we get Dad for his birthday" situations. I will confess. I am bad when it comes to calling people. I am the guy who text even my lovely daughter just to know that she's in school or what's she wants for dinner. But slowly I've been doing calls. I normally don't call my Aunt's much, now I do once a week, despite talking to Fati daily, everyone else I just text to say Hello. But yest it's good to call and just hear each other voice. I used to call my Mother daily, that's exception above all. May Her Soul rest in perfect peace. Missing you Hajja Saliamatu
5. Read real, actual books.
I love the feel of books and the smell of the pages. I love to write in the margins, fold the pages, and crack the spine when I open them for the first time. Books are a treasure box of words in your pocket. Spend more time with them. I normally read the QURAN more during Ramadan, but recently I've been reading it at work more than at home. Since the electronic World has make things much more easier.
6. Think before responding.
Since we’re constantly returning texts and replying to emails within five minutes, we’ve gotten into the habit of responding to situations immediately. And that’s fine when your friend is just emailing to say she’ll be 10 minutes late. But when you receive important news, good or bad, sit with it for a while. Give yourself time to work through it and feel your feelings. You’ll probably be much happier with your response if you give yourself some time. There's a jerk who normally e-mails me via Facebook and try to be so rude, now this is man, he's story is this: He's after a girl in my home Country Sierra Leone, but the girl told her that she prefer me more than any man, no listen to this. I don't have no relationship with this girl or this man, But the miracle of Facebook again, someone is crazy about me that I don't know, so this man is upsets with me for that and starts sending e-mails, in the beginning I was getting upsets, but then I realized, some people just needs to vents, so let me be. I try not to reply him back immediately, maybe a day or two. Slowly, he starts to change his manner to me
7. Get more laughing done in a day.
The average 4-year-old laughs 300 times a day, the average 40-year-old laughs four. How can you up your laugh quota? Surround yourself with funny people, learn how to tell a joke, subscribe to some hilarious podcast, or just search YouTube for funny videos.
I've always like looking at any HAPPY PERSON'S. It's relief stress. I know we're not perfect, but some people are just too unhappy to be around, they'll drain your positive energy so fast. I feel bless whenever I'll talks to Fati, she have that positive energy and smiles that will just hits you and make you feel welcome and special 8. Write by hand.
Write letters to your family or friends, write notes to lovers, lists for the store, goals for the week, or thank you notes. Digital communication is fantastic and convenient but there’s a huge difference between texting someone to say that you love them and writing it on a note and leaving it taped to the front door or bathroom mirror.
9. Go to sleep one hour earlier.
When we’re well rested we’re more productive, happier, and we make better decisions. Those emails will still be there in the morning, as will Netflix. Close the screen and go to sleep.
With my age now in the 40's, I am expereiencing some form of sleeping problems. I might try to go to sleep bit early most time, since I've to wake up at 4:30 am. But most time I just can't sleep. Don't ask me why, But I am trying hard. 10. Make time to do nothing.
Yes, even if you have to actually schedule it into your calendar. Doing nothing could be going for a walk, cuddling your pet, taking a long bath, or just laying on the sofa and staring into the middle distance. Down time is required if you really want to recharge your batteries.
11. Get dressed up.
I know that leggings-as-pants are incredibly comfortable. But sometimes we need to take the time to shine our shoes, put on some red lipstick, and get out of our yoga clothes. Even if it’s for no good reason! Make your own reason—drinks with the girls, a gallery opening, dinner at that cool new restaurant.
12. Wander. Without your GPS, without a destination or purpose.
Take a walk around a new neighborhood, pull over when you see a cute shop you’ve never noticed before, let your dog lead the way on his daily walk. You never know what you’ll find or who you’ll meet.
Now, I bet that you already know that these simple steps will make your life more amazing. Consider this a loving push to really, actually do them a little more often.
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